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My Mother: December 20, 1930-April 30, 2021

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The thing I knew for sure about Mom is that she knew everything.  Or, at least, she knew whatever I needed to know.  I think most of all she knew how to love me.  She knew how to nurture and support and encourage me—and all four of us girls.  I loved how we all had our own toys or household items in our assigned “favorite” colors.  Of course, she already knew that I liked blue best, and it’s still my favorite color.  

One year for Christmas we all got big stuffed dogs we could sit on.  Another year we all got kitty cat chairs.  Every year I loved decorating the reindeer cookies with icing eyes and collars.  For Easter we always got pretty new dresses—and shoes and socks and pocketbooks and maybe spring coats or sweaters and even hats when we were little.  I know we looked adorable, because I remember people telling us we did.  “And no boys?” they sometimes said to us.  “No boys!” I would reply proudly.  No yucky boys, I always thought. 

I remember our trip to New York City when Kate insisted on going through the lobby of our real hotel with her enormous Cecil the Seasick Sea Serpent wrapped around her.  I think Mom was a little embarrassed, but we never saw anything wrong with it.  New York was just one of the fascinating places she and Daddy took us.  I loved seeing the US on our family vacations—even when, as a money-saving measure, she made us switch to camping and I cried at the prospect.  All our adventures together around Europe were especially sweet.  She and Daddy just let me and Maurice be in charge and take them wherever we wanted to go.  

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My Father: January 28, 1926–May 7, 2018

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I remember standing in the upstairs hallway on Heathfield Road in our Baltimore row house with my Daddy.  He was holding the wet sash of my purple plaid dress and calling down over the banister, Mom!  What should we do?  Janny got her sash in the potty.”  He hardly knew what to do with a little girl (though he had many more chances) just as, many years later, I hardly knew what to do with a little boy.

Mostly he let Mom deal with us, though she always prefaced it with your father and I,telling us the rules, handing out allowances, arranging the Easter photos (where Kathy always cried).  But one day in 7th grade I was getting ready for a first:  friends and I were dressing up and taking the bus downtown by ourselves!  Daddy pulled me aside in the den and gave me $2 for extra spending money.  I was surprised and delightedhe never just handed me money! Rather, Daddy quietly and faithfully earned the money to support us.  He was one of the young men, a handsome sailor with a big grin, who came home from the war and ran with the promise that was America in mid-century.  He went to college on the GI bill, got a job, got married, bought a row house and set about raising a family, which turned out to be four little girls (and a female cat).  I always told people he joined the Scouts to get a break from us girls.

1957:  Dad & Mom with Mimi, Kate, Lisa & Jan​ Keep reading

Santiago de Compostela to El Puerto de Santa Maria to Pope Field to Maryland

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(Too many kilometers to count)

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v.7a …Jerusalem remembers all the treasures that were hers in days of old….

And I did too. We were away from home for almost two months, something we’d never done before. It was hard leaving Chris and Krystle and screamy little Calvin in Spain. It was uncertain how we would get home and how much trouble that would be. It’s always a little hard getting back into the routine of regular life, but that is where we have treasures in the midst of the mundane that we might forget to appreciate. We missed our family, our friends, our church, our garden and home, our projects and regular responsibilities. And our sweet little cat–would he even remember us? Then there were the treasures of the Camino. It wasn’t a “fun” trip but it was valuable. The Camino was interesting, it was challenging, it was invigorating, it was instructive, parts of it were quite satisfying, but it wasn’t “fun” in the “let’s-take-a-vacation” manner. It was full of treasures. I see them when we talk about our adventure, when I look at our pictures, when I think of the people we met and the beauty we saw. I think treasures will become clearer as we process the whole pilgrimage. Thank you, Lord, for all the treasures you give us in this life. Help us to value them and use them well, for your glory.

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We packed up one more time, hiked to the bus station, rode to the airport and got our flight to the south of Spain. Keep reading

Unto Us a Child Is Born! (Friday 9-16-2016)

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(Lorca to Villamayor)

It’s the day we’ve been waiting for! Calvin James was born this morning in Rota, Spain, to happy but tired parents Chris and Krystle. He weighed 8 pounds 4 ounces and is 22 inches long. Calvin has so much long dark hair the doc they could braid it!

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Meanwhile, back on the Camino, you haven’t missed the posts. There haven’t been any posts. I am incapacitated by extreme fatigue, a deep heel blister (suggestions for relief welcome), poor internet and, at the moment, a very small 12-bed dorm room. It is after ten, so that means the lights are out. I and the two young men in the top bunks to my right are propped up with our devices glowing. Three people are snoring gently. It is way too much trouble to access any photos. Once I get up here I am not coming down until morning. Actually, the structure of this bed is such that there isn’t much to grab onto to hoist myself up the ladder. As I paused to ponder on my way up tonight, a kind young Iranian-Brit came and offered his hand and strength. “Take your time, slowly, slowly,” he said. I must look decrepit.

I certainly feel decrepit. I had to walk in my sandals today, to keep the heel pain bearable. My two pairs of walking shoes are crammed into my backpack. Since one shoe weighs as much as my pair of sandals, I have added to my weight considerably. My shoulders hurt pretty much all the time, but it’s hardly noticeable now with the pain of the heel blister. We definitely must be nuts.

In other news, the pilgrim meal this evening at the only bar in town was incredible! We had three choices to select from for the first course; I chose gazpacho, fresh and cold and garlicky. The main course was roast chicken, perfectly seasoned, with a small salad and boring looking but amazingly delicious potatoes sliced thin and layered with big flakes of salt. Dessert was creme caramel, which is usually pretty bland, but this one came piled with whipped cream and drizzled with chocolate sauce. Local red wine rounded out the meal.

The young men have turned off their devices. Morning comes too soon, and Maurice will crack the whip. Buenas noches.